I feel all of us plan a lot of ttings whether it is new year goals, a holiday, goals and have they ever gone by your plan, NOPE. Recently, I was reading a book, ‘Rework by Jason Fried’ and this book combined with my own experiences provided me with great insights that made me realize why I was sucking at this game called life.

These words changed my attitude towards life:-

I read this line in the book mentioned above and it changed my thinking by a 360 degree angle because I realized planning just involves guessing the events of your life beforehand and assuming that things will happen just the way you plan and lets just face it, the world in your mind is not reality and life is all about change so how will you able to change your life, reach your successful destination if you stick with a plan that has no relation with reality. This is the reason I was unable to achieve anything because instead of actually doing things, I was just wasting my time planning things.

I don’t know if this is the thing with you but you know when I make a plan, I spend a lot of time on detailing. I search google to make sure that I am doing the right thing, scan infinite articles that how things should be done exactly, I spend the whole day coming with a perfect, mind blowing plan, plan that is going to change my life and the next day I am getting up at 12 afternoon, making excuses in my mind that why shall I start with my plan tomorrow and the never-ending cycle continues. You know if I would have not wasted my time on this, I am betting you I would have been the next Ambani, okay a bit exaggeration at least I would have been a better me.

I realized I am making a plan before doing the actual thing which is the worst time to make a decision, when I will do the actual thing then only I will experience it, so how can I make a list of directives before experiencing the particular action. Thus, the utter stupidity of my action came into light.

You know every month a sought of intrinsic motivation rises in me and I decide I am going to change my life, I make a plan for the whole year and forget about my life changing plan the next day, see here is the flaw a time period of one year is little too much, decide what you are going to do this week, forget even the week, just decide what you are going to do today and stick with it, day by day I swear you are going to experience that how your life has changed.

I made a plan for studying for my finals and suddenly some family functions came my way and you know what I was devastated because my plan was ruined, it felt like experiencing a break up, I was unable to get over it, I opted for emotional coping strategy, my plan failed and my expectation over my results for finals failed too. So summing up my whole experience, I realized my plan made me rigid and an earlier learning hit my brain that rigidity equates to a fixed mindset, flexibility equates to a growth mindset. My plans, instead of making me reach new heights, were pushing me down. So I came up with a new plan, to burn my plans.